Adding a Second Child
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
"What do we do?" the anxious woman said to me. "We had always considered adding to our family. Someday. We are so happy with our little girl who is now three. But now we are thinking about adopting. What do you think?"
In this case there were many dynamics to consider. First, there daughter was an only child. A child long desired and anticipated. She enjoyed having that special place in her parents' heart and lives. To add another child by adoption would change the family dynamics. That is not necessarily good or bad. It just is. Facing the reality helps one deal with it with wisdom and patience.
How would this couple handle the aspect of one child being theirs biologically and the other being adopted? It was something to think about honestly before they jumped into it.
Another question that is always wise to consider is the background of the child. What is known about the birth parents? Why are they seeking to have the baby adopted? How would you deal with possible unknowns? Would this be an open or closed adoption?
There are many things to consider when thinking about adopting another child. I have seen many times that the family is incredibly blessed by adding another child. On the other hand there are cases where parents moved too quickly and later regretted their decision. It is a lot to think about. Remember, it is your family. Only you can decide what will be beneficial for your family.
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