Helping You With Adoption Decisions
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
When I first began to explore adoption in 1993 I was amazed by its complexity. It seemed the more I read the more I saw that I needed to know. Today it is even more complex. But with the complexity there is a wealth of information available in the form of books, websites, articles, forums etc.
I'm always interested in reading about adoption as you would see if you scanned my bookshelves. Recently I discovered The Adoption Decision which was so interesting that I had to read it from cover to cover in one sitting. Laura Christianson writes with a wealth of knowledge about adoption including not only her own experience with adoption but also the experiences of others. Her writing style is easy to read and informative. If you have not read this book be sure to put it on your must read list.
I particularly enjoyed the chapter titled "Adoption Miscarriage" having experience my own adoption loss a few years ago in Ukraine. Words can not begin to language how very difficult that was not only for me but also for my oldest daughter who was waiting with anticipation for me to bring home her little sister. Christianson discusses not only the risky business of adoption in realistic terms but also the process of healing and hope.This one chapter alone is worth the price of the book.
Now today let's have some fun. I am giving away for free a signed copy of The Adoption Decision to the first person who sends a comment today. Get those comments coming. This book is a winner!
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Resources for parents
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
There are some excellent books available for adoptive parents to read not only for pleasure but also for understanding and skills. One of the books which I consider a must read for parents and professionals is Deborah Gray's Nurturing Adoptions. Much has changed in adoption in the past 10 years. One of the changes is in the area of understanding adopted children.
Just because a child is two years old doesn't mean he is at a two year old's expected level of development. Factors such as attachment issues, grief, trauma and prenatal exposure to harmful substances all play critical roles. Nurturing Adoptions provides skills for professionals and parents working with families in a 21st century world. Success stories are shared and breakthroughs which give encouragement and hope for even the most child. As I read story after story of children and their families who have overcome tremendous difficulties my heart was encouraged and inspired.
Steps are given for ways to transition children from infants to early teens into their new families. Specific effects are given of neglect and trauma on brain development so that one can recognize them. Approaches are shared which will encourage a child to flourish at home and school.
So if you are experiencing challenges in parenting your adopted child check out this book. You might find just the tip you need to help provide a home environment where your child can grow. When seeking professional help find one who has experience in working with adopted children and their families. Coaching for parents of adopted children is also available to give parents the support and skills they need. Give me a call at 540-825-1134 and we can discuss steps to support you in your parenting.
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