The Adopted Child and Loss
Saturday, August 30, 2008
As we raise our adopted children from time to time we might realize their uniqueness. Wonderful as adoption is, it happens as a result of loss. Our children have experienced, whether they remember it or not, loss. And although healing occurs in their life the pain of loss might resurface from time to time. Such was our experience today.
Early this morning we received a call that the seventeen year old daughter of friends of ours had been killed in a car accident. My girls and I were shocked and saddened by the news. We are still trying to accept that painful news and our prayers reach out to all the family and friends. But I saw firsthand for myself again how very sensitive my two girls are to loss. It is a gift but also a vulnerability which they have.
Years ago a few months after I had adopted my youngest we spent the night at a nearby motel. Jenny was a little over 3 year old. As we were watching the movie Spirit all of a sudden she broke forth in wails and deep sobs. At first I had no idea what was going on but then as I observed the story I saw that the young horse had just been separated from its mother. And even though we kept reassuring Jenny that the horses would be reunited in the end she was inconsolable. The pain of loss is excruciating!
So once more we are dealing with loss in our home. The pain which for most would already be difficult can be even more so for an adopted child. Knowing that, I am able to give them the opportunity to process feelings that are beyond words. I can also point them to their loving Father. Our loving Father knows all about our pain and He will heal our hearts as we turn to Him. That makes all the difference. The comfort that we draw upon is an eternal comfort. He continues to pour out His Peace that passeth all understanding. Have you discovered that too? May your day be filled with His Peace and His Eternal comfort.
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